It was a wonderful warm summer's day, the preparations were underway, and I was feeling excited. I had invited my friends and family round for a barbecue to celebrate, for no particular reason, just because I wanted to. I spent the whole morning cleaning my house and preparing the food, I wanted everything to be perfect.
My guests started to arrive, the drinks started to flow, and you could hear the laughter in all 4 corners of the garden. Then a neighbour, whom I hadn’t invited, arrived. This took me by surprise as we didn’t get on, they were the last person I wanted to see, so I asked them to leave.
I was a little shaken, but soon put this to the back of my mind as I began handing out the food. With a tray of burgers in my hand, I turned around only to see, bold as brass, my unwanted guest holding out a plate, waiting for their food. In disbelief at their audacity, again, I asked them to leave and even escorted them to the front door. I pushed my feelings to the back of my mind and carried on mingling with my friends and family.
You can imagine my surprise when they climbed over the fence, it was now no laughing matter, now I was becoming agitated. This time I escorted them off the premises and locked the door firmly. I asked my friends to keep an eye out in the garden whilst I sat guard by the front door. In my mind, this was the only way I was going to be able to stop the unwanted guest from getting back in.
Whilst I sat guarding the door, in case the unwanted guest made another appearance, I missed my BBQ; I missed the fun the others had. I had allowed this unwanted guest to take away my joy
Now imagine if my BBQ, wasn’t a BBQ at all, but just a normal day for me and the unwanted guest was my feelings of anxiety. By standing around waiting in case it came back I had missed out on so much time and fun with my friends and family.
Feelings of Anxiety come and go, we don’t own it, it’s a feeling that our bodies create. We need some anxiety to keep us safe, to warn us if something is wrong, but when we wait for its arrival, we miss out on the life we could have.
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